Todays post is something a little different. Here I thought I would share a list of things with you that at some point during your 20's you are going to learn! We have all been there so hold your head high and keep going!
Comparing yourself to others is absolutely pointless
I spent a lot of my teenage years comparing myself to other people. I have always been the bigger one amongst my friends and its not easy when your growing up, not to look at your friends and make comparisons! When you get to your 20s you come to realise actually you are your own person and who cares.
Its not as easy to find new friends
Remember the days when you went to school and it was easy to make friends with the people in your class by bonding over your hate for the subject/teacher - Well being in your 20s isn't like that. I don't know if it is just me but it is really difficult to meet people your own age. I work with a group of people who are all at least 30+ with a couple of exceptions. I don't go out a lot (I have never been one for nights out) and its not easy to just go up to people and go "hey wanna be friends" - or is it just me?
You don't have to be attached to your BFF
Remember when you were at school (if thats where you and your BFF met) and you spent every waking moment talking to each other. Being in your 20s isn't like that! I can go weeks without speaking to my best friend. The good thing is that when we do see each other, its like we have never been apart.
Being a grown up is hard
Forget the times when all you had to worry about was when the next issue of Smash Hits magazine was due out or what lip gloss you were going to get with your pocket money; when you get to your 20s you have to think about things like Bills, Rent Payments, Council tax.
You learn to value
Tying in with the above one. You learn that you can't just spent money like a nutter on shit you don't need and learn to be more appreciative when you do buy something you have wanted to get for a while.
Its ok to fail
There are times in your life when you are going to make mistakes and gradually you learn to accept that its ok and you use it as a way of becoming a stronger person rather than letting it define who you are.
Be yourself
I think in your 20s you learn to find out who you really are. I am much more confident of who I am and what I want now than I was 6 years ago. Maybe that comes with age and experience but I definitely think that your 20s are when you learn who you are and what your about.
Be Patient
Everyone assumes that by 22-23 (when you have left university if that is the path you chose) that you should know what the heck is going on. What job do you want to do, When do you want to get married, how many kids do you want. Seriously! At 22 I thought I had everything figured out (well not everything - I thought I knew the career path I wanted to take) - Fast forward 3 years and I couldn't be doing something more different and you know what - I am ok with that! I really enjoy my job and can't wait to look forward to progressing within the new field I have chosen.
Being alone is ok
This time last year - in fact 9 months ago in fact I was sat down with one of the girls at work discussing the fact that I hadn't got a boyfriend and that I needed to find a date for the silver wedding party she is throwing in November. I got to the stage where I felt like everyone around me was a couple. Fast forward 9 months I am sitting in the living room of my own house with a boy I loved far too long and engaged to be married! You honestly never know what is around the corner! Be prepared the ride is fab!
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